Conscience just ahead

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We all used to love Pinocchio when we were little (I still do), we even tried to be him :) Sometimes we still do, now that we're bit older. But when it's the turn for someone else to lie to us, that would be a problem!

So, when you realize that you've been lied to, the best thing to do is to say nothing about it and proceed with your conversation with the liar as if you haven't realize anything. Don't confront the liar immediately because you will not be able to take any additional information from him. Information are important to help you be sure about his lie, then you decide whether to confront the person at that time or hold off to figure how you can best use this insight to your advantage ;) And while proceeding with the conversation, here are some signs that can help you detect a lie:

• He won’t look you in the eyes while speaking
• If he says I am happy but only his mouth shows it, he is definitely lying
• He will get so defensive in his conversation
• He will try to step away from you a bit as if he is trying to escape the conversation
• He will touch his nose or ear or reach for his face as if he's trying to hide his expression or face's color change 
• If you ask him “Did you cheat on me?” He will answer with your same words saying: “No I didn't cheat on you.” Or he will give you a lecture about his believes instead of answering like: “You know how I think & that I'm against these things”
• He will sound more like a machine when talking and moving
• He would answer your question but he won't ask you one in return. Like when a guy asks his girlfriend if she’s ever been tested for AIDS and she responds with “Yes, of course! I do annual checkups, I even do blood donation, so I am good..." And that's it. Then, she is lying because if she was that concerned about her health as her answer implied, wouldn't she ask him the same question in return?
• If he says “I love you” while frowning, he is definitely lying
• He will start telling you tons of things until he sells you his story and loose the main subject
• He would want the subject changed, and when it is,  he’s in a more relaxed mood 
• He would say things like “To be totally honest” and “Why would I lie to you?”
• He would ask you to repeat your question as if he is trying to give time to himself to think about an answer like  “Where did you hear that?” or “Could you be more specific?”. 
• He would answer your question with another one like “Did I take out your report from the drawer? Is that what you’re asking me?”

So, if you are a real grown up Pinocchio here is a list to avoid when lying, and if you're not, you can use this list to detect the Pinocchio in your life. After all, we've all been a Pinocchio one day :)

PS: To make the text lighter, I would refer to a liar (he or she) by "he".

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Who likes to fart on the first date?

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FIRST DATE... Oh yes, many of you just had flash backs, some with a smile on and others with a "haha oh my Goooooood!"

She was asked out on a date. Well, her date suggested she takes a half day off from work since the weather was great, so she accepted. He picked her up at 8 am and took her on a ride. He didn't tell her about the direction saying, 'We're going to spend quality time together sweety'. Happily, the lovely lady with the cute flowery dress, was sitting next to him in the car where the breeze was making her hair fly in all directions. What a lovely feeling. She had her sunglasses on, ready to enjoy the sun!

After few minutes of traffic, as they were heading to the city, she realized the place he was taking her to will definitely not include any romantic picnics nor sweet kisses on the beach. Few minutes later, he stopped the car in a very long row of other cars. It was actually the line up for the regular mechanical legal check for cars in Lebanon known as "El mechanic"... on their first date!

The girls laughed at their girlfriend's story. They all had some bad first dates stories to share too, and they started one after the other. But, this one takes the cake:

You know when they define "Winter" as the 3 month break between a woman and her razor, sometimes, they ain't lying! Actually, it was the beginning of spring season. Some people started going to the beach but yet not everyone! He invited her to dinner. He picked the place, as this lady hasn't suggested anything... of course, a first test, if you know what I mean. But, the problem was, he said it was a surprise and indeed it was! He came to pick her up from her house. She was expecting a romantic dinner in a fancy restaurant, and she wasn't planning for anything more, again, NOTHING more on that first date. So, she had her hair done, had put on very light make up, a nice tight jeans and some killing high heels!

A few minutes later, he said 'I planned a surprise for you, I will make you remember this first date forever.' He proceeds, 'I got you a swimming suit, I am sure it will fit you as I am an expert in these things, and we are going to have a night swim in the beach now!' He adds 'We will then have a romantic dinner on the sand where I prepared everything even the wine bottle and the candles. I'm sure you will love this!'. Wow boy, creative! Seems like someone wants to get some candies for desert! Actually, as he was pronouncing these words, she couldn't think about anything but her legs that haven't been shaved in 3 month! Oh dear, I will help you imagine it: you know a monkey? aha, yeah! Same thing!

She will not be able to bear this, he will not neither. Poor guy! She couldn't think about any excuse, she hadn't any! So she asked him to pull over a supermarket as she planned to go in and get a manual woman razor (discretely) that she can use in the toilet to solve the problem. Of course the gentleman wouldn't accept letting her go in alone, he insisted to go in with her to buy whatever she needs and pay for it too! Can anyone think about any more embarrassing situation on a first date?

Now that I have shared these stories with you, it would be nice to share yours with us to make me and these ladies feel better! Come on boys and girls, don't be shy! Share with us your bad, funny and  embarrassing stories about your first dates.

Your turn!!

A narcissist or a cat?

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What do you think about love? No, no! Not another boring Juliette & Romeo's romance... not that kind of love! But the kind where you love yourself more than anyone in your life... The kind where you love how the other person loves you and where you love yourself through the other person's feelings to you.

Of course, loving oneself is something very essential; otherwise, one can never succeed in relationships and life and won't be able to love someone else and be loved. But... heard it or lived it, some people can love themselves even more than their families, their girlfriends and their wives. They tend to show that they are in love, and they actually are, but in fact, they are not in love with their partners but with themselves! They tend to choose or do the things that comfort them and bring them happiness, as they are the center of everything, trying to forget what might be of an interest to the close people around them too. They put themselves first. They don’t bother to understand the other person's feelings, perspectives or needs as they have no interest in meeting them. They are not easy to spot; you have to be in a serious friendship or relationship with them to figure them out. They would do anything to make things work out in a way that favors them.

Another type of self loving is when someone is in a relationship, and all what matters to him is how his partner loves him. What's the added value of his partner's love to his life and well being? These kinds of people like to get their own way, so they flirt as much as they can until their partner buys or gives them everything they want, material or not. "I love the way you love me", "I love how you take care of me", "I love the deserts you make me", "I love the beautiful jewelries you buy me",  "I love the fabulous vacations you book me", "I love how you talk to your friends about me", me me me me me!!!! Have you ever been in a relationship where your lover was using you to feel important? To reach his self esteem? Or to get the gifts and expensive things you buy and offer? How long did it take to be clear to you that he does not love you! He does not love how you are, but he loves the way you make him feel about himself, the importance you give him and the fact that you are ready to give him anything he wants. Of course, generosity is essential in a relationship, but when the relationship and love are based on what the other is offering - again, material or not- , then be sure that the day you stop buying your lady the expensive gifts or cooking your man the delicious dishes, or giving the most passion of all to your lover, that love will be over and your lover will be waving you good bye at the door step instead of being ready to give passion back to you!

A funny comparison between these types of lovers and cats, if you watch the behaviors of your cat - if you own one or if someone you know does- , you will feel in its character and behaviors a bit of what I mentioned above. But the good side of cats is that cats can ignore their owners sometimes but at least when they do they won't say they didn't :)

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